When the word ‘grief’ is mentioned, many may think of it as pain and sadness that occurs immediately after a loss. But did you know there are various types of grief?
Listed below are a few distinct types of grief:
Anticipatory: grief or an emotional response that occurs when a loss is foreseen, expected, or otherwise known ahead of time. This happens, for example, in the case when an uncurable or terminal illness has been diagnosed.
Delayed: grief or an emotional response that may happen after weeks, months or years have passed after a loss. This type of grief occurs because after the event, individuals may be busy with responsibilities arrangements or other necessary arrangements related to the loss and in crisis mode which prevents them from processing grief and/or other emotions. One should recognize that, if after a significant time has gone by and feelings of grief unexpectedly arise or seem to surface without warning, it is completely normal. Furthermore, grief can resurface long after individuals believe they have processed their feelings as a result of reminders or other memories.
Disenfranchised: grief or an emotional response that is not recognized or openly discussed by society as a whole or a large segment of a population, group, or community. When this happens, one's feelings are not completely acknowledged and/or others may be confused about the emotions. Additionally, they may be judgmental and not provide a space to grieve.
Inhibited: grief or an emotional response to loss that is repressed or not outwardly expressed around a loss. This is typical in some cultures or possibly because of one's upbringing where displaying strong emotions is frowned upon or discouraged. Unfortunately, young boys are raised to believe that showing emotion is not masculine. Nevertheless, anyone can experience inhibited grief.
It is essential to seek out resources to help with handling loss and grief, especially if you are feeling emotionally isolated and vulnerable. If you are experiencing an immediate crisis:
• Call 911
• Contact the Disaster Distress Helpline by calling or texting 1-800-985-5990 (Select option 2 for Spanish)
• Dial 988 (English and Spanish) for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Chat is also available. TTY users can use their preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
*Listen to podcast episode 6 for additional information about loss and various ways to cope.